WANT TO BECOME Sexually
Healthy & Happy?

Join The Secret Sunday List & Get 1 FREE Actionable Secret Every Sunday.

Want To Become Sexually Healthy & Happy?

Get 1 FREE Actionable Secret Every Sunday.

Ladies, This Is Why An Overly Tight And Toned Body May Not Be Embraced By Your Sexual Body

bodybig

About Me

Lauren White is a qualified Sexologist and the founder of Sexosophy. Lauren provides expert coaching and education for women experiencing sexuality concerns by drawing upon their own sexual philosophy to guide them closer to their authentic sexual self. Her approach to sexuality is holistic and progressive as she gracefully ignites a passion for feeling again within her clients and those she crosses paths with. To learn about Lauren and her life’s work please visit her website.

I see a shadow lurking behind the myriad images of women’s fit and lean bodies that are overtaking my Tumblr and Facebook news feeds.

In their own right, these bodies are beautiful and the effort to get to that state of physical appearance is admirable. This requires mental strength, dedication and prioritisation of goals and I can only presume that the intentions to do this were beyond the inaugural act to have a selfie prove their arrival as a woman who ‘knows’ her body.

The toned abs and concave stomach speak something else to me when I see them. The confidence of being toned to that degree sometimes doesn’t gel well with a sexual body and here is why:

Why sometimes a taut & toned body doesn’t go well with the sexual body

#1 A rigid stomach doesn’t allow deep belly breath (= deep pleasure)

Breath is an important part of how we connect to our physical body in general and especially our sexual body. It is natural for our bellies to have a little pudge and protrude a little – they are made for expansion, but not so much contraction. It is this expansion that causes our bellies to move outward when we do deep belly breaths; allowing us to open up to relaxation, connection and increased sensation within our sexual anatomy.

When we breathe shallowly, we are generally in our head but when we breathe deeply, we are within our body.

When our stomach is taut and rigid, this expansion can be difficult and rather than increasing the genuine understanding that we have within our bodies, I believe that it is a superficial means that strives towards aesthetic perfection and detracts from heartfelt wisdom and acceptance.

If you experience discomfort expanding your belly with your breath, I invite you to look inward and ask yourself why this might be:

Are women’s bodies meant to be ‘contained’ and toned?
Does an expanded belly mean gluttony or imperfection?

Whatever the answer, your sexual body craves what is natural and it is the pairing of breathwork and true love of our own body that create long-lasting and deep sexual satisfaction.

#2 A tight core also tightens your PC muscle (= sex muscle)

Another thing to note is that a very tight core can also inadvertently tighten your PC muscle (sex muscle) to the point that pain can accompany sex and vaginal penetration. When pain accompanies sex, our body can start to be on guard for this pain and begin to close itself off to possibilities of pleasure, penetration and orgasm.

When we give ourselves permission to let it hang outwards rather than sucking it in, we can breathe, feel, move and focus on the beautiful sex or self-pleasure before us with presence and comfort.

Let go, expand and be open to finding the balance with conditioning your physical body but still having the capacity to open your sexual body.

Lauren x

Image Credit Wikipedia

Want To Become Sexually Healthy & Happy?

Join The Secret Sunday List & Get 1 FREE Actionable Secret Every Sunday.

The Pussy Pleasure Course™

Learn How To Fully Pleasure Your Partner!

Enrollment closes In

Days 0
Hours 0
Minutes 0
X

I Also Recommend Reading

Share Your Thoughts

  • Yeah, I was recommended this site by a friend but the overall tone is one of preachiness more than anything truly vulnerable

  • kkbl

    Sorry, this is nonsense. Being toned does not prevent deep abdominal breathing (in fact, strong muscles there can increase the power of this fire-breath as they provide more power to draw the breath down into the abdomen), and further, there is no evidence that a tight pubococcygenus muscle would instantly lead to painful sex, and anyone experiencing pain during sex ought to consult doctors to rule out physical conditions or psychological cause. If toned muscles prevented full range of movement as you’re suggesting, body builders would be incapable of breathing! That is simply not how the body works, and a toned muscle does not equal a tensed muscle. Toned muscles does not equal ‘sucking it in’ – toned muscles are a different shape because they have been developed and grown – they do not ‘bind’ a body – they support it. Strong healthy muscles can increase the range of motions we can safely engage in, and a strong core means a well supported back – and so, good posture and prevention of all kinds of chronic injury, as well as aided digestion and fuller, deeper, healthier breathing.

    This all just smacks of exalting one body type while shaming another.

  • km2012

    Sorry, that’s a fairly huge amount of bullshit. A muscular stomach does indeed allow for a deep belly breath. And, if you are physically fit (outwardly muscular with low body fat or not, you can be fit either way), you will be better at sex and enjoy it more as well.

X

To whom do you want to send this article via email?