I am a Conscious Sex and Relationships Writer and Editor-in-Chief at My Tiny Secrets. Life is my research lab and playground where I get all my inspiration. I am currently writing my first novel documenting my own personal journey of (mis)adventures in love, sex and relationship.
Warning: Some of these sex and relationship practices you might be better off not trying!
I have often felt the heavy pressure of having to submit to social norms about the way I should look and act. There are so many restricting labels on what it is to be a woman or a man, and of course how our sex life and relationship with our significant other should be like.
Do I have to dress like this to attract a man? How important should sex be in a relationship? Is it ok for me to be the breadwinner or is it more ‘normal’ for me to be the one who looks after the children? I have so often been confused by the roles that society has tried to box me into to…and just wanted to rebel and do the opposite!
When I look at how our animal friends do things differently, it seems there are many more ways of living available to us also.
Warning: Some of these sex and relationship practices you might be better off not trying! Here you go:
Male cuttlefish use camouflage when seducing a female in order to fool passing male rivals. Their love interest will see their male strips but they might adopt the mottled appearance of a female on the other side of their body to hide from males.
Cross-dressing to look like a female buys them some valuable time alone with their target, helping them to charm a mate before other males notice the competition. What a sneaky pick-up strategy! Is this the cuttlefish version of a cock-block?
#5 If You Were a Peacock The Men Would Dress Up to Impress The Women
Photography by: Unknown
Perhaps men should dress to impress in makeup and uncomfortable shoes? If they were peacocks, they would!
In the peacock kingdom the males are the ones that have to prove their worth in the beauty department.
They must show off their exotic coloured feathers in a graceful mating dance while the female peacocks get to ogle the eye candy. This is one gender role reversal I can wholeheartedly get behind! I am more than okay with the idea of letting the men do all the peacocking (sorry about the pun!) to get our attention. Bring it on!
They take turns looking after the young while the other goes fishing to find food for the family.
But before we fall too much in love with the emperor penguin way of life, we need to dispel a common myth about their mating behaviour. Forget the romantic notions you may have about emperor penguins being faithful lovers. The truth is they are only monogamous for one breeding cycle! Go fish!
To add insult to injury the female hyenas have penises.
Yes, you heard me right! These pseudo-penises are actually bigger and longer than the male versions (ouch to the ego!) and if you can believe it they use them for urination, copulation and even childbirth!
The female penises also come in handy to protect them from unwanted sex, allowing them to pick and choose the most desirable mating partners. Thank you natural selection!
#10 If You Were A Tamarin Monkey You Would Probably Live In A Threesome
The Tamarin monkeys don’t stick to the nuclear family.
They are known to have all kinds of family combinations but by far the most common is one female to two males.
Go girls! Tamarins usually give birth to twins and because the males take on the main childrearing role, this means each male only has to carry one baby on their back. It makes practical sense this way, which is why us women would be all for it, right? I can’t think of any other benefits.
To more moments of real, authentic human being-ness!
Big, big love, Diane x
Still thinking about the Tamarin Monkey? You have to watch this 🙂