Eyal Matsliah is an author, speaker, and coach in the areas of conscious business, sacred sexuality, and creative expression.Eyal is unique in his approach that integrates sexual, professional and spiritual empowerment.His clients learn to cultivate their sexual energy and channel it into their creativity, business, and wellbeing. Eyal’s book, ‘Orgasm Unleashed – Your guide to pleasure, healing and power’, teaches a woman how to transform her sexual experience by herself, and later share that with her partner. He lives in the beautiful Melbourne, Australia.
You can identify when a woman had this type of orgasm because she glows in a special way…
You have probably heard that women can have clitoral or vaginal orgasms. You might have even read about the debate around whether vaginal orgasms even exist. However, the experience of many women, my experience as a sexual coach, as well as the ancient science of Tantra, all prove that women can actually experience many different and distinct kinds of orgasms.
If you are just starting out, don’t worry about which is which. Just experiment with the following areas of arousal, and see what works for you.
(Note: I might be a man, but I have been studying, teaching and empowering women about their sexuality for many years. So I invite you to read with an open mind and see if this serves you.)
7 Different Female Orgasms And How To Reach Them
Before attempting any of these techniques, do whatever gets you in the mood. Take a hot bath, put on some sensual music, light candles and incense, and start touching yourself all over your body in a way that excites you. Don’t try to have an orgasm. Instead, explore, play, discover, experiment, and most of all have fun!
Continues stimulation of the breasts and nipples can result in an actual orgasm, or can bring about more quickly and easily the onset of an orgasm when vaginal stimulation is applied.
The nipples are connected via energy channels to the clitoris, and thus, stimulation of the breasts will cause an arousal of the clitoris and the whole genital area.
How to Have a Nipple Orgasm:
Use fingers, or have your partner use their mouth, to stimulate your nipples. Touch, rub, pinch, pull, kneed, and twist your nipples to explore different sensations. Your partner can lick, suck, and bite them.
Try to do this for 20-30 minutes, even when they feel a bit sensitive or if the sensation has plateaued.
Apart from clitoral orgasm, this is where most women experience pleasure and subsequent orgasm. But compared with the inner areas , the vaginal entrance orgasm is more shallow and sharp, similar to a clitoral orgasm.
If a man is penetrating you shallowly, at the area of your vaginal entrance, it feels very pleasurable on a physical level, but when he enters you deeper, the experience of the pleasure becomes deeper, more expansive and meaningful.
How to have a Vaginal Entrance Orgasm:
Using your fingers, a lovewand or your partner’s penis, touch the ring of muscles and tissue at the entrance to your vagina. Use in-and-out movements, circular movements, and apply pressure and stimulation outwards to the vaginal entrance.
#4 The G-spot Orgasm
Originally called the Grafenberg spot after the scientist who “discovered” it. I prefer to call it the ‘Goddess spot.’
The G-spot is actually not exactly a spot but an area located just inside your vagina, near the entrance, on the upper wall under the pubic bone.
Let’s get this straight: All women have a G-spot.
Some women’s G-spot is located closer to the entrance, while others have their G-spot further back.
A G-spot orgasm feels like an overwhelming experience of intense pleasure, not as sharp as a clitoral orgasm, but rather more round and expanded. It takes longer to reach a G-post orgasm, it unfolds slower, lasts longer, and the pleasure decreases gradually and slowly.
A G-spot orgasm will be more emotionally intense, overwhelming, and meaningful and will be followed by a deep feeling of satisfaction and relaxation. There will be strong contractions of the whole pelvic floor, PC muscles, and vaginal muscles.
With continued stimulation, you could experience multiple orgasms or an intense orgasmic state, lasting for long minutes or even hours.
Sometimes there might be an expelling of fluids from the vagina or the urethra, also known as female ejaculation.
When you insert your index and middle fingers into your vagina and curl or hook them towards your clit, you will discover that this area feels different than your vaginal walls. It’s like a ridged, soft, fleshy hill that feels like a combination between a hard tongue, and a soft palate. It will be much more engorged and swollen when you are really aroused.
Using your fingers, or a non-vibrating dildo, stimulate the G-spot area directly, making sure you are wet or use plenty of natural lube.
You might need to keep going for 20 or 30 minutes as this orgasm takes time, but it’s soooooo worth it!
A G-spot orgasm requires that you surrender.
As you are stimulating yourself, keep an attitude of openness and acceptance towards yourself and the experience.
You might encounter some pain, discomfort, frustration, sadness, or other strong emotions related to past experiences or beliefs.
One of the reasons that women don’t experience G-spot orgasms is that they don’t stimulate (or receive stimulation) for long enough, or that they stop when these sensations and emotions come up. Take a moment to express these emotions, and keep going with the stimulation.
#5 The Cervical Orgasm
A cervical orgasm is probably the most profound, meaningful, and special orgasm that a woman can have, at least on the physical level.
The cervix is the entrance to the womb, the uterus. This is the pole or the center of the feminine energies in a woman’s body.
A woman’s cervix is related to her feminine core, her sense of self, her heart, her creativity, and to her entire being.
A cervical orgasm will feel deeper, more intense and more rounded than the G-spot orgasm, and will be accompanied by strong emotions, love, oneness with self, partner and god, ecstasy and transcendence, tears, crying and a feeling of deep satisfaction on all levels.
A cervical orgasm is characterized by contractions of the deep vaginal muscles and uterus, while the PC muscles stay relaxed. It effortlessly causes the sexual energy to move towards the higher chakras. This is why a cervical orgasm is a whole-body orgasm, as the energy moves throughout the body.
A woman who experiences her first cervical orgasm will usually remember that day forever.
One of my female teachers said that she could identify when and if a woman had this orgasm because she glows in a special way.
The cervix is located at the deepest part of your vagina, all the way in. It feels like a finger or the tip of the nose sticking from the back wall of your vagina. You definitely need a long lovewand to reach your cervix.
After getting yourself aroused, stimulating your clit, vaginal entrance, and G-spot areas, use your dildo to reach all the way in. You will feel a sensation very deep inside you. In the beginning, it might feel numb, tender or even painful. Repressed feelings and memories might come up.
Keep stimulating your cervix and allow yourself to go into and through whatever comes up. It can sometimes take 30-60 minutes of internal stimulation to reach a cervical orgasm, and allowing yourself to trust and to surrender is a key aspect of experiencing it.
About 5-10% of women need to have frequent anal stimulation to feel satisfied, otherwise, they feel heavy, stagnant and stuck.
An anal orgasm can be explosive, thus your partner should take extra care when penetrating you anally, as it might be more challenging to control his ejaculation.
How to Experience an Anal Orgasm:
Use your own fingers or a dildo to stimulate your anus, first from the outside, and then venture inwards. Make sure you use a lot of natural lube and that you completely relax your anus while you are inserting anything. Make sure not to touch your vagina with anything that came near your anus, as this might cause an infection. You can also ask your partner to stimulate you anally, first with his fingers and later with his penis.
#7 TheThroat Orgasm
via GIPHY Women can have orgasms when performing fellatio, especially when deep-throating, or from having a finger or two rub the back of their throat. These orgasms are related to the arousal of the pituitary gland at the back of the throat, which is also a minor chakra.The experience of this orgasm might also be related to the physiological effects of holding one’s breath, and the suppression of the gag reflex. When stimulated orally, some women can excrete huge quantities of saliva and mucus that can be very viscous. Sometimes there is even a sort of white foam. The release of these fluids is considered to be throat ejaculation. MUST READ: How To Give Her A Mouth Orgasm A throat orgasm feels very pleasurable and is accompanied by convulsions and spasms and a need to make strong sounds. Some women need to pause if they are giving head because the orgasm is so strong they can’t continue. Although very pleasurable, a throat orgasm feels more transcendent.
Some women go into a semi state of trance and experience a higher and more pure state of consciousness.
The frequent stimulation of the throat and experiencing these orgasms can lead to a better connection with your intuition and feminine wisdom, a deeper expression of your needs, creative and artistic abilities, and your higher potential. The common belief is that women don’t enjoy giving oral sex; That they “give” head or do this for their partner. But the reality is that women can enjoy and benefit from this even more than men.
How to Experience a Throat Orgasm:
This is best done by another person. You first need to be sexually aroused, preferably after already experiencing a few non-clitoral orgasms. Have your partner insert his thumb, facing upwards to your mouth and rub the upper back side of your throat. Alternatively, you can take his penis in your mouth, and try to deep-throat him.
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In the beginning, it might be quite challenging. You might be convulsing, feeling like you’re going to vomit, or actually having some stomach fluids come up. Don’t worry—it would get easier in time. Especially with his penis, try to keep him inside your throat for as long as you can without moving. Keep the stimulation for a few minutes and remove the fingers—or penis—if you are convulsing. Allow your body to go into spasms and convulsions and permit yourself to make strong sounds. Most of these orgasms can be experienced by yourself. Some women might need to receive healing, sacred bodywork or de-armoring in order to release trauma stored in their bodies, open the pathway to pleasure, and experience some of the orgasms mentioned above, specifically deep vaginal orgasms. Have you experienced any of these types of orgasm? Which is your favorite?
By Eyal Matsliah| Edited by Serena Gee [This post originally appeared on YourTango]