“You will never get an amazing woman if you’re lame. Period.”
Before you read this, I invite you to read the first post in this series. Don’t skip it. If you don’t read it, I trust you’ll be highly triggered and write me off, call me a bitch, and go along your way. That’s not what I want. That’s not what we want.
What Does It Mean To Be “Consciously Awake”?
Everyone has issues. Men and women both. Humans are imperfect. As a result, we have to deal with and own our shit. We don’t get to throw it onto other people. That’s not what Consciously Awake means.
Being Consciously Awake means practicing self-awareness, keeping high standards for yourself and for your life, and playing in the fires of your soul.
When we do that, we want our partners to be on the same path. Otherwise, we women end up playing mommy, babysitting, and miss out on the deep emotional connection we crave from our men.
So, men, if you’ve ever had a woman you care for tell you any one of the following, this post is definitely for you:
- “Man up!”
- “Be more aware, accountable, and responsible.”
- “Go to counseling.”
- “Own your shit.”
- “Stop projecting.”
- “You’re too controlling and critical.”
- “You’re not listening. Hear me.”
- “Quit acting like a baby.”
Then frankly… YOU NEED TO CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU RIIIGEDY WRECK YOURSELF.
What We Crave From You
We crave men we can rely on. We want men who complement us. We will not compete with you. We want men to know our core desires, honor our brilliance, beauty, personalities, and capabilities. We don’t want men focused on tearing us down. We want men who lift us up.
We want men who love to play. We want men who work hard all day so they can relax when they’re with us.
We revel in the present and look for men who can take us to the future. We won’t waste our time. We will not give away our precious energy.
We are willing to go to great lengths to develop ourselves emotionally. We have worked for what we have in life. We will not apologize, minimize our feelings or sell ourselves short for self-entitled brats who want to be the prize. We want you to stand for the greatest version of us.
We love the dance. We won’t chase. Girls chase. They put hot guys on a pedestals. If you want to chase us, you’re wasting your time.
We will not fluff you up emotionally. If a woman is bold enough to tell you she wants you or likes you, you need take the reigns. We don’t want to be a slave driver. We want you to be a leader.
We won’t cater to your insecurities if you lack the ability to feel our love. We will not shovel reassurance at you. If you want us, come get us. We will not wait around. We look for authenticity and integrity. We want the real deal.
You can call us what you want. But our intensity… our bitchiness… it has an origin. We are intuitive. We know when we’re getting less than your best.
We’re tired of boys. We need men.
We’re exhausted. We get lonely. We want emotional equals. We want your love and affection. We crave your admiration and adoration. We want you. We need you.
In fairness, not all you have your heads in the sand. If you’ve read this far, it’s likely you take a proactive stance about your inner work and reflect. You look at the common theme and failures in your relationships. You actively seek evolution without mommy dearest having to spank you into shape.
But those who’ve quit reading are more than likely stubborn, caught up in image, and have Peter Pan Syndrome. They refuse to grow up. They think their shit don’t stink. They blame women for their shortcomings. They take no ownership of their twisted dynamics.
I’ll share this with you now. Become the man you’ve always wanted to be. You don’t have a shot with us otherwise.
You Will Never Get An Amazing Woman If You’re Lame. Period.
Getting what you want and need doesn’t have to be so difficult or challenging. We want to love and we want to be loved.
We don’t want you to be someone you’re not. We want you to be the greatest version of yourself. We’re all flawed and in need of growth. We’re here to stand for you. We want you to stand for us.
We want you to take some fucking responsibility for your self and for your life. We aren’t asking any more of you than we’re demanding of ourselves.
How much of your being are you willing to devote to what your heart desires? Fear of pain and loss is not an excuse. You are here to LIVE and LOVE and we won’t settle for less. And the real truth is… you don’t want us to.
Right now, I’m pioneering a path to empower a new breed of women. These women stand in their power and are enough for themselves. They will no longer be hurting themselves unintentionally. The heart of our issues as women is doubting our self-worth. If we, as women, stop looking outside of ourselves and start looking at how we create our reality, we have to ask ourselves, “What am I willing to put up with?”
No man on this planet is worth half the heart ache we’ve felt. The right men, the ones still reading, now know what it means to take care us. These men won’t fuck around with our hearts. It’s time we surround ourselves with these kinds of men. We can trust these men with our hearts.
3 Quick Questions to Ask Yourself When Choosing A Man
- Do I feel good about myself around this person?
- Does this man stand for and honor my highest good and brilliance?
- Does this person treat me with respect and compassion?
If you answer NO to any of these questions: GET THE FUCK OUT!
There are way too many men in this world to settle for bullshit. And if he’s hot, honey, there will be another. There are always others.
Let’s be allies. Let’s help each other out. Life is too challenging for us to compete with one another.
XO, Kelly Marceau
PS. I want to thank 3 men in my life who’ve helped me forge my own path to self-awareness.
Adam: You started it all. DJ by night. Psychologist by day. You held up a mirror and believed in my progress. I can never thank you enough for your role in my conscious evolution.
Trevor: no man has ever allowed me to gaze more deeply into his soul than you have. We met at 23. And you still know me better today than any other man on this planet.
Conan: you are a big deal to me. You’ve humbled me greatly in my life. You taught me how to love unconditionally and stay in my heart even when I was scared. I can never thank you enough for helping me as a woman.
Edited By Samuel Hershberger / Artist Featured Image: Delphin Enjolras
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