I have come to observe through life, study, and anecdotal conversations that men, too, have their own equivalent to a woman’s “moon cycle” that is related to the release of their “seed”.
Within the theory of Ayurveda, men’s shukra (seed or seminal fluid) is the energetic equivalent to women’s pushpa (the blood of their womb) and sexual fluid (also called shukra).
These fluids are distilled through many days of work from foods and liquids to become a precious, life-creating substance. Although semen is created daily (85 million sperm per day per testicle), it takes 72 to 90 days to develop mature sperm.
No wonder men in the after-flow of a love union are like satisfied, lazy lions, completely reclining, with no interest in doing anything whatsoever—just like women, who feel the need to seriously chill at the onset and during their monthly flow. This is what I call a man’s moon cycle.
Men’s Moon Cycle & The Lingering Lunar Quality of Lovemaking
Putting aside the many theories and practices about men releasing their seed, which is really very individual, seasonal, constitutional and unique to every man, there is a wonderful “lunar quality” that men and women embody after making love.
This blissful post-period of absolute lunar, yin, receptive, relaxed, content, open, and loving space that men enter into, reffered here as their moon cycle, deserves to be honored…particularly by women who are often the ones to start poking that Lion King to get up and do something again.
Ironically, as many women friends admit, we often dismiss men when they are so beautifully resting in their lunar nature, a quality women long to be reciprocated when it’s our turn in the cyclical flow.
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Just as men are often resistant to honor their ladies on their “moon cycle”, when they need the most loving and nurturing support, ladies need to check ourselves if we find we don’t honor men in their spontaneous—but very real release of precious essence—their own “mini-moon.
For those precious few hours, to a few days, these Lions can be adored as “Moon Kings” too. I have yet to meet a man who is not into this idea as they know it to be innately true.
How to Recognize and Honor the “Moon Cycle”
There are similarities and differences between the woman and the man’s experience of the “moon cycle”.
- Male and female orgasm naturally produces a cascade of oxytocin and a regenerating rhythmic entrainment between our brainwaves and our heart rhythm. This creates the feeling of a downward stream of bliss that is healing for every level of our being.
- The relaxation that follows after reaching this peak is a sacred time for men to experience the healing power of ida nadi,the “lunar current” of our parasympathetic nervous system, by resting in the whole body surrender.
- A woman’s sexual release creates the same melting-into-being, but is often energizing. It is not anywhere near as “depleting of essence” as for men; hence the rhythmic differences that can emerge post-union.
- Men and women can begin to authentically recognize the beauty of ida nadi within the shukra-pushpa (seed-ovum) release cycle. They can then give that support and love to each other by creating a natural rhythm of serving the Moon King-Queen.
Honoring the Moon King-Queen can be in the smallest of ways of royal treatment, like feeding your queen or king in bed or making a special ojas tonic. Ayruveda recommends warm almond milk with honey and cashews sprinkled on top..yum!
You start to love both being and serving the Moon King-Queen (I made up these titles and they work!)
Ladies and Gentlemen, Gay, Bi, or Straight, let us learn to love our Moon Queen or King and help evolve our collective culture into greater balance.
By Shiva Rea | Artwork by Martha Neal