Dear Men Who Love Blow Jobs (6 Magical Secrets From A Woman) ✨

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Scarlet Amor

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Scarlet Amor is a California based author and relationship coach on Sex, Love and Dating for Spiritual Hipsters. She pens racy (and sometimes hilariously disastrous) memoirs about her enlightening adventures exploring romantic intimacy and modern relationships as a path of personal growth and empowerment with a fun loving, spiritually sexy edge.

If you honor your penis and treat it as the “Holy Shaft of Light” that it is, we women will follow in suit.

I was one of those girls who used to gag at the thought of having to give my man a blow job.

But all that has changed: I freaking loove giving blow jobs!

Here are some tips on how to present your gorgeous magic wand for us ladies to worship with uninhibited splendor and ravishing reverence.

#1 Honor Your Magic Wand

It all begins right here. If you honor your penis and treat it as the “Holy Shaft of Light” that it is, we will follow in suit.

Start with a re-naming ceremony.

While there is nothing dirty or wrong with referring to your member as a “dick” or “cock”, try on a more gentle title that will roll off your lover’s tongue like a mantra painted on silk.

In Neo-Tantra, practitioners have taken on ancient Sanskrit terms such as Lingham (meaning “wand of light”) or Vajra (meaning “lightening bolt”) to bring the holy back to your sexy power tool.

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Have your woman vote for her favorite name and reference your magic wand with it’s spiritual moniker from here on out.

#2 Ditch The Porn Fantasies

Porn ruined blowjobs for most of us women. It put the idea in your head (the one down below) that forcefully gouging us in the mouth for your own pleasure was suppose to be sexy and appealing to us ladies.

News Flash: The majority of women DO NOT want to be aggressively ass fucked, gang banged, objectified, or pretty much porn raped as portrayed in those little pornographic films.

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While hard and dirty sex does have it’s place in the lovemaking ritual, most of us conscious chicks desire sweet and tender love, romantic intimacy and, soul connection in the bedroom.

Forcefully stuffing your boner in her mouth and holding her head down while she chokes, gags and pukes a bit is not (always) sexy for us.

Nor does it allow us women the opportunity to honor your wand with the gentle feminine energy we embody. Leave your porn fantasies at the door and be open minded to other ways to receive pleasure from your Goddess.

#3 Keep It Squeaky Clean

Here is a big secret that will immediately uplevel your chance at getting a killer blow job:

Wash your penis.

Even if you had just washed it before you picked her up for your dinner date, your junk is most likely sweaty an hour later.

So before you move into bedroom mode, take a quick visit to the loo and give your Blessed Boner a thorough wash, rinse, and shine.

If you are uncircumcised, please pull back your foreskin and rinse the smegma out of those hidden crevices that her tongue will surely find.

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#4 Let Her Drive The Show

Brothers of the Holy Lingham, take your hands off the driving wheel and let her guide the show. In fact, tie your hands behind your back and force your hips to remain motionless.

Don’t worry, you can regain control later when you bang her brains out to the far reaches of the Universe.

Prop yourself up on the bed with pillows behind your back and present your Magic Wand to her so she can comfortably bow down in “Namaste” and have her way with you.

Your woman will enjoy the process when she can control her own motions and licks and that also give her pleasure. If she’s not enjoying it, what’s the point?

Imagine how hot it would be if she went into an ecstatic lingham worshiping frenzy in your honor, giving herself waves of orgasms as she slides your shaft slowly and carefully into the depths of her mouth.

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If you still don’t understand why this is so crucial to let her guide the show, refer back to #2.

#5 Play Show and Tell

At the same time, you can gently educate your woman on how you like your Vajra Sword worshiped.

I’d suggest not doing this during the heat of the BJ moment, as this shifts the energy back to you being in control. Women are sensitive to criticism, especially in the middle of the act, and even more so if the art of enjoyable blow jobs is a new venture for her.

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Share with her your favorite BJ tricks, delights and special sweet spots on how you like your Lightning Rod to be sucked. If there is a particular technique that turns her off, respect that and guide her to other areas of your penis that do not receive enough attention.

Blow her mind, then allow her to jump back in the driver’s seat so she can blow yours.

#6 Return The Favor

This does not have to become a tit for tat situation, but consider returning the favor.

Before you immediately jump to assuming that means she wants you to give her head in exchange, think twice and ask her, “In what ways can I offer you pleasure that I normally do not do for you?”

Women are wired differently than most men. Her erotic foreplay desires may include a candle lit bubble bath, or a slow and sensual hot oil massage, or a twenty minute foot rub while you nibble on her toes.

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It may even be cleaning out the garage she’s been nagging you about… Get into her world and pamper her to her liking, and I guarantee you will get a lot more blow jobs in the long run.

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Once your woman re-discovers how to enjoy worshiping your Blessed Banana Boat, it will no longer feel like an obligation to her.

It will become a gift she freely and enthusiastically gives you.

When “BJ duty” transforms into a place of spiritual practice and worship, she will be filled with delight to honor her man as the Sacred Sex King that you truly are.

And low and behold, suddenly your woman will not be able to keep her lips off your Lingham.

By Scarlet Amor | Featured artist: Thomas Saliot

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