This journey began at the end of 2015 when I was living in Bali. After a relationship ended, I put my things into storage, left my work and set off on a healing journey. I knew that something was happening in my pelvis. I felt so tense. [...] So I went and had a de-armoring session in which I discovered so much pain in my pelvis and also to my surprise, I had a completely numb cervix. [...] Determined to bring my cervix back to life, I created the first iteration of this project [...] Now I’m joined by 1500 other women [...] What I’ve learnt during this journey is that it’s not about the destination. It’s about who you meet in yourself along the way.
A cervical orgasm feels like deep, pulsing pleasure that spreads across the entire abdomen…sometimes, the whole body.
In October of 2015, I went to see a tantric bodyworker. I didn’t book a session to talk about my cervix let alone experience a cervical orgasm, in fact that was the last thing on my mind…
I was heartbroken having recently gone through a breakup, and I noticed the muscles in my pelvis were tight in response to the stress. My body was definitely saying ‘no’ to sex. My hope was to get some healing and able to go back to feeling some semblance of sexual desire. Little did I know that session would change my life forever.
What emerged was a curious obsession with my cervix. Not because I had a cervical orgasm, but because I discovered my cervix was completely numb.
This puzzled me.
I knew about cervical orgasms, but what about cervical numbness? Surely if my cervix was numb, I must be a long way from feeling heavenly cervical pleasure.
So I went on a mission to awaken sensation at my cervix. I wanted my rightful cervical pleasure and, hopefully, orgasms!
A Surprising Truth About Cervical Orgasms
I started an online group intended for women who also wanted to discover the secret superpowers of the cervix.
While we all have had many orgasms, what I noticed mostly was an epidemic of numb or painful cervixes.
Commonly you’ll hear it’s normal for the cervix to feel uncomfortable. Normal, maybe. But not natural. This is how I learnt that the first step to feeling cervical pleasure is to actually feel something! And if that something is discomfort, that’s what you need to work with.
During his research on people with spinal cord injuries, scientist and orgasm researcher, Dr Barry Komisaruk, discovered the cervix has its own neural pathway to orgasm. He found out that with cervical stimulation, his subjects could experience pleasure and orgasm via the vagus nerve which does not connect to the spine.
This amazing discovery proves the cervix is a pathway to pleasure and orgasm independent of our other pleasure anatomy. In fact, it is the only organ in the body connected to three sets of paired nerves. It is definitely meant to feel.
What To Expect During A Cervical Orgasm
This is what you can expect to feel during a cervical orgasm.
The cervical orgasm feels like deep, pulsing pleasure that spreads across the entire abdomen…sometimes, the whole body.
Unlike the clitoral orgasm that feels localised and has a build up of tension followed by a release, the cervical orgasm doesn’t follow a linear progression.
Setting it as a goal just activates your sympathetic nervous system and prevents you from reaching it. When you are deeply present, a cervical orgasm takes place in a prolonged, relaxed state while you ride the waves of pleasure…
The first time it happened for me, I was in my hotel room in Rome. I was happy and my heart was completely open. This was another very important factor when deciding to practise and work with my cervix.
For about 20 minutes, I sat still with my finger on my cervix. Slowly the gentle sensations grew into a deep full body throb; my awareness of any physical limits dissolved and my senses appeared to expand.
This is what makes a cervical orgasm so special: It is spiritually profound, and that is why it is also known as the Tantric orgasm.
What Makes A Cervical Orgasm So Magical?
In the absence of science, the common theory is that the body is releasing DMT (Dimethyltryptamine). DMT naturally occurs in many plants and is the pyscho-active ingredient in the plant medicine, Ayahuasca. DMT produces intense psychedelic, transcendent experiences similar to those described during cervical orgasm.
Research on rodents suggests it’s possible we also have our own DMT supply that is emitted via the lungs or pineal gland. Because science has dropped the ball on endogenous DMT research, we can’t be sure if this is true.
How Other Women Describe The Mystical Cervical Orgasm
Check out these experiences from women in Self.Cervix :
“I have experienced amazing states of infinity and expansion, images of universal spaciousness, holy peaceful places … in lovemaking with partners and in my solo orgasmic yoga practice.”
“It is an all body experience of elation and bliss in which i am transported to another state and place while also being able to see from above. My thinking becomes very clear and i hear/feel huge concepts to do with the universe, life’s purpose and a sense that everything is as it should be despite how things appear on a global sphere.”
“I am going through a black tunnel and I don’t know what’s happening sort of like a dying and at the same time totally exhilarating. And then also huge expansion and deep deep relaxation. And I was wondering how the world can go on normally and why isn’t everyone screaming about this off the rooftops?”
“Melting and pulsing out into ecstatic timelessness expanded, clear profound, unity being Everything in slow motion pure ecstatic celestial embodied in the void.”
It feels like all edges disappear and I become one with my partner..with the universe, with all that exists.. It feels ecstatic, like I am completely filled with love, completely fluid, open. It’s like everything becomes energy, flowing, connecting..in a state of pure love and joy.. It feels soft and surrendered. When it comes I never want to leave this place…”
How To Reconnect with your Cervix & Feel A Cervical Orgasm
The path to your cervical orgasm depends on where you in your healing journey.
Bearing in mind that it is a non-linear process, here are four interchangeable steps when experiencing this sublime state:
#1 Awaken Your Sensation At The Cervix
At first, you might find your cervix is numb or uncomfortable, but this will change with dedicated and regular cervical stimulation. When I first began my practise, it took me up to 20 minutes before I started feeling something, so be patient. Over time, the pleasure becomes more intense.
#2 Refrain From Clitoral Orgasms
I know this can be tough! As lovely as they are, clitorial orgasms follow a goal oriented, tension-based process. To experience a cervical orgasm, you have to stay relaxed and prolong your sexual encounters. Giving up clitoral orgasms during this process also trains your brain to start feeling the subtleties of your inner world.
You need to be very turned on. When you’re aroused, your cervix moves out of the way allowing for deep penetration. This means getting good at asking your partner for what you want and setting the pace. You need to feel ok about taking as much time as you like.
#4 Attune To Love
Eastern sexuality practices have always linked the cervix with the heart. In Taoist sexual reflexology, the cervix is the heart point. Whenever I’ve experienced expanded cervical pleasure, I’ve come into my heart. During self-pleasure, I focus on feelings of love. During partner sex, it helps if you’re in love with your partner, but you don’t have to be. Simply tapping into feelings of love is enough to open the channel between cervix and heart.
Cervical orgasms merge sexuality and spirituality so beautifully.
It is, without question, another way to experience the depths of who we are. It blows my mind that the place from which we were born also has the potential to blast us back to experiencing one-ness and love.
It can take a while to break the patterns that prevent cervical pleasure. For me, if the cervix has the potential to show me more of who I really am, all the time and patience is worth it.