Creator & Founder of Authentic Tantra, Devi is an internationally recognized Tantra Expert, Certified Tantric Healer, Certified Reiki Practitioner, Certified Meditation Instructor, practicing Tibetan Buddhist and Tantric Dakini of the Shangpa Kagyu Lineage.
She is the author of “Shake Your Soul Song! A Woman’s Guide to Self Empowerment Through The Art of Self Pleasure” and the Host of Sex is Medicine with Devi Ward Podcast on ITunes. Devi has been teaching meditation and personal growth workshops since 2000.
I want to invite you to try this ancient, unique and powerful self-pleasure practice
Very recently, I had the privilege of interviewing Steve Bodansky, author of “Extended Massive Orgasm”, on my radio show. His book outlines the practice of Deliberate Orgasm.
And I love, love, love the practice of Deliberate Orgasm!
This technique is useful for keeping my sexual pleasure reserves “full” so I blended the Deliberate Orgasm technique with my own 7 years of Tibetan Tantra. The result is a sweet, simple Tantric masturbation practice I call “Orgasmic Awareness”.
A Better Orgasm In 3 Simple Steps
Set some private time aside to fully immerse yourself in this exercise. The whole practice takes about 20-25 minutes so I encourage you to set your timer.
I chose 20-25 minutes because, as an Ishaya Monk, we were instructed that it takes 20 minutes of meditation for the brain to receive the full benefits.
It can also take as much as 20 minutes (or more!) for a woman’s body to reach her full state of arousal.
Before you start, add some natural, organic lube to your clean hands.
#1 Prepare your body
Make sure you are super comfortable and fully relaxed the whole time. This will allow you to receive the full healing benefit.
Lay flat on your back with your head comfortably elevated.
Get naked from the waist down and keep your legs open, use pillows to support your knees if necessary.
Place one hand on your heart and one hand over your Yoni (vulva).
Focus on the sensual experience of your fingertips sliding all over your pussy…your mons pubis, your outer labia, your inner labia, your groin. Really feel the sensuality of your own touch as you gradually zero in on your clitoris.
When you are ready, begin slowly massaging your clitoris in slow circles. Continue making your “ahhh” sound as you breathe with an open mouth.
Observe which areas of your clitoris are the most pleasurable.
The right side, left side, top, bottom, where is your “sweet spot?”
When you find your “pleasure zone”, change your circular massage to an up and down stroke.
Short, fast strokes build excitement and pleasure. Long, slow strokes help plateau you – or “slow down”- while maintaining pleasure. (I learned this tip from the Bodansky’s and it’s very true!)
Continue stroking your clit in this way for the remainder of your time.
Never allow yourself to go past a 9 on your pleasure scale of 10 being climax and 1 being numb.
Use short fast strokes to take you to 9. When you reach a 9, use long, slow strokes to keep you in bliss.
Ding! When your timer buzzes, you’re done.
How was it for you?
More Tips For Becoming More Orgasmic
Orgasmic Awareness awakens your body’s desire for pleasure. Make the most of your experience with these additional tips:
Do this practice as often as you like! I have been doing it just about every night before bed.
Use only your fingers for this practice. No vibrators! See what happens.
When your 20 minutes are up, then you are free to play some more !
Personally, 20 minutes is just a warm up for me. I have incredible orgasmic pleasures that make me even more horny, so when my buzzer goes “ding”, I am ready to rock the house! I bring out my penis replacer, my G-spot wand, and my trusty clit vibe, and I rock and roll for another 20-30 minutes.
Not every night of course, but let me just say: This practice makes my vagina hungry for more…I think that’s a good thing.
By Devi Ward | Edited by Allison Ross | Featured Artist: Elizabeth Lisa