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Lingam Massage: A Magical Guide To A Happy Penis


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Jonti has worked for over 12 years in the field of Tantra, expanding sexual experience and consciousness. Jonti offers workshops, talks, private and group lessons in the field of sexuality & sensuality. He assists singles, couples and groups in healing, creating a deeper connection, intimacy, pleasure and the magic between sex and spirituality.

“A lingam massage can be deeply emotional and healing. It creates a space of sexual being rather than sexual doing.”

Lingam is an ancient tantric term used to describe the penis. It means ‘Staff of Life’.

A Lingam Massage allows a man to experience a whole other level of pleasure. The beauty of the lingam massage is that the pleasure is on both sides: the giver and the receiver.

The challenge many men face during a Lingam Massage is to free their mind and to receive pleasure.

Because to do this fully, and to go deeply into the feelings, sensations and emotions, requires vulnerability.

So before men can allow themselves to feel vulnerable, they need to feel safe.

How To Prepare For A Lingam Massage


The first step to an unforgettable lingam massage is a safe and sacred space. Creating this space is an expression of love which allows your partner to be vulnerable, to let go and to slide deeply into his pleasure.

#1 The Right Temperature

Warmth is vital. I can’t emphasize this enough. If your partner is not warm, he won’t be able to relax, go into his body, or get into the experience.

#2 The Right Ambience & Sound

Entice his senses. Soft lighting & music (without words) will add to the space. Incense can work beautifully, but remember your partner’s sense of smell can be very different than your own.

#3 The Right Massage Oil

Warm oil feels delicious on his skin. The plainer the oil, the better it is for him. My recommendation is Coconut Oil. Warm the oil by putting it in a bowl of hot water. Make sure the oil is not hot; you don’t want to burn him.

#4 The Right Mindset

Be compassionate. For many men this might be the first time they get touched this way. Some may not be sure how to react or respond.

He may also not have an erection, or the erection may come and go. This is because for most men the slow approach of a lingam massage can be new and confusing.

Be confident anyways.

A man does not need to have an erection to experience pleasure. More than that he does not need to have a full erection to have an orgasm.

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4 Steps To A Heavenly Lingam Massage


Before you begin the lingam massage make sure to massage and open his entire body from head to toe.

And whatever you do communicate with him. Tell him to breathe, to relax and to allow himself to embrace whatever he’s feeling.

#1 Make Him & Yourself Comfortable

Have your man lie on his back and get him comfortable with cushions. Place them under his head, his neck, his back, and his bum, whatever he needs to be able to relax.

Sit between his legs, or next to him, in a position that’s comfortable for you.

#2 Connect

Begin by placing one hand on his heart center (in the middle of his chest) and your other hand on his genitals. Breathe. Spend a few moments looking into each other’s eyes.

Allow the warmth of your body to flow into him, and imagine the boundary that separates your physical bodies to disappear.

#3 Start With His Groin

Then start by gently stroking his groin crease. Go up and down. Make circles with your fingertips. Also stroke his perineum – the area between his balls and anus.

#4 Squeeze & Stroke

Now move over to his penis and hold it in your hands. Start to gently squeeze and stroke his penis… slowly… very slowly.

Try each stroke a little differently: hard, soft, fast, slow – ask him what he prefers.

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12 Different Ways Of Stroking His Penis


#1 The Milker: Milk your hands alternately up his lingam. Start at the base, and move all the way up past the head.

#2 Anvil: This is the opposite of the Milker. Apply long strokes from the head all the way down, alternating hands.

#3 Corkscrew: Hold the base with one hand, stroke up the shaft to the head with the other hand and corkscrew your hand off the head.

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#4 Fire: Rub his lingam between both hands as if you’re rubbing sticks to make a fire.

#5 Doorknob: Turn your hand around the head as if turning a doorknob.

#6 Ring: Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger. Pump up the shaft in short strokes, coming closer to the head each time.

#7 Shaft: Stroke only the shaft, ignoring the head.

#8 Cockupressure: Pull the skin towards the base and wrap your fingers around the base like a ring. With your other hand squeeze various points along the shaft.

#9 Featherlight: Stroke gently from the perineum, over the testicles, up the shaft to the head and back, very gently.

#10 Perpetual Penetration: Make loose fists and stroke from the top of the head, to just beneath the head, using hand over hand.

#11 Finger Pleasure: With the tip of your index finger make a circle where the shaft and head meet.

#12 Thumbing: Circle the head with your thumb.


Any of these strokes can take him to orgasm. They can also cause very different feelings and sensations.

Whatever way it unfolds, this will sure be a beautiful and powerful experience of pleasure for you and your partner and an incredible gift of love.

By Jonti Searll | Featured artist: Michael Howard 

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8 years ago

Amazing. Love it. Post more like this. Pusey is crying for milk

8 years ago


8 years ago

I’m so excited to know I’ve executed all 12 of those without ever seeing them in lists, intrinsic knowledge of pleasure is one of my own favorite qualities 🙂


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