Jonti has worked for over 12 years in the field of Tantra, expanding sexual experience and consciousness. Jonti offers workshops, talks, private and group lessons in the field of sexuality & sensuality. He assists singles, couples and groups in healing, creating a deeper connection, intimacy, pleasure and the magic between sex and spirituality.
“A lingam massage can be deeply emotional and healing. It creates a space of sexual being rather than sexual doing.”
Lingam is an ancient tantric term used to describe the penis. It means ‘Staff of Life’.
A Lingam Massage allows a man to experience a whole other level of pleasure. The beauty of the lingam massage is that the pleasure is on both sides: the giver and the receiver.
The challenge many men face during a Lingam Massage is to free their mind and to receive pleasure.
Because to do this fully, and to go deeply into the feelings, sensations and emotions, requires vulnerability.
So before men can allow themselves to feel vulnerable, they need to feel safe.
How To Prepare For A Lingam Massage
The first step to an unforgettable lingam massage is a safe and sacred space. Creating this space is an expression of love which allows your partner to be vulnerable, to let go and to slide deeply into his pleasure.
#1 The Right Temperature
Warmth is vital. I can’t emphasize this enough. If your partner is not warm, he won’t be able to relax, go into his body, or get into the experience.
#2 The Right Ambience & Sound
Entice his senses. Soft lighting & music (without words) will add to the space. Incense can work beautifully, but remember your partner’s sense of smell can be very different than your own.
#3 The Right Massage Oil
Warm oil feels delicious on his skin. The plainer the oil, the better it is for him. My recommendation is Coconut Oil. Warm the oil by putting it in a bowl of hot water. Make sure the oil is not hot; you don’t want to burn him.
#4 The Right Mindset
Be compassionate. For many men this might be the first time they get touched this way. Some may not be sure how to react or respond.
He may also not have an erection, or the erection may come and go. This is because for most men the slow approach of a lingam massage can be new and confusing.
Be confident anyways.
A man does not need to have an erection to experience pleasure. More than that he does not need to have a full erection to have an orgasm.
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