Drew Gerald is a coach, entrepreneur, and published author of “Holistic Sex” and the forthcoming book for men “Become A Remarkable Lover”. He also writes on personal development, where over 13,000 people a month visit his blog The Polyman to become better. In a previous life, he founded and ran a high end software company for over 7 years - creating solutions used by Fortune 500 clients such as Disney, Square-Enix, Sony Pictures, Whole Foods, BT, Walmart, Discovery Channel, Turner, Acura, and thousands of others.
“Techniques are important, but they’re nothing without a deeper understanding of women and what turns them on.”
As one of the most influential driving forces of any living species, sex plays a huge part in our lives. It can be the cause of so much pleasure, motivation, and yes – even frustration. Besides the obvious frustration of people that just can’t “get any,” the frustration that men and women have with mediocre (or just plain awful) sex is alarming!
Before we get to the tips, ask yourself:
Is she having multiple, earth-shattering, full body orgasms… without you even touching her?
Is she willing to do anything for you because you bring her pleasure beyond her wildest dreams?
Are you positive that you’re making her go absolutely crazy over you because of the man you are, and what you do for her in the bedroom (or on the kitchen counter), and that she genuinely respects and admires you for it?
Are you truly confident that you’re one of the best lovers she’s ever had?
If not, then there’s a slight chance you have some room to become an even more incredible lover! (and who doesn’t want to be ridiculously good in bed?).
The following tips go deeper than a few superficial suggestions of where to put place your fingers or what foods make your semen sweet. Learn to apply them to improve your sex life and help you become the amazing lover you want to be!
SEX TIP #1: A WOMAN’S BIGGEST SEX ORGAN IS HER BRAIN
“Excite her emotions and mind, and her body will follow.”
Turn her on first with her imagination – not her clitoris – then get physical. Women do indeed love incredible, mind-blowing sex. On a higher (advanced) level, it means she’s capable of having (and you giving) orgasms without any physical stimulation whatsoever.
Tip #1: Talk dirty to her!
Send sexy texts, role-play, or write erotic poems. It’s hot, sexy, and it turns her the hell on! (Need proof? Romance novels are the highest selling genre of fiction books, with estimates at over 50%).
“Dirty talk is an art.”
Hint at what you plan to do to her in bed. She’ll be thinking all day about how good she’s going to feel when she’s in your arms (or pinned down underneath them) later that night!
SEX TIP #2: TAKE THE LEAD
“As a man, it’s your job to lead in the bedroom. ”
Women are more independent now than ever. They are parents, students, and career women – roles that require them to lead themselves and others. When she is with a man, a woman wants and needs to be able to surrender to him, and be feminine. In other words, she wants you to take the lead!
Tip #2: Take the lead.
Escort her to the bedroom. Take her hand and slide just where you want it. Be adventurous, open, and honest, and she will do the same!
SEX TIP #3: WOMEN ARE DIALS, MEN ARE SWITCHES
“Keep building the anticipation until she can’t take it anymore. She’ll go mad!”
Men are usually ready to get it on at the drop of a dime. Women, on the other hand, need to be turned on – not simply flipped on like a light switch. Think of the knob that controls the volume of your hi-def audio system – that’s women. How fast or slow you turn the dial is very important.
“A great lover knows when the time’s right. He can sense when she’s ready to get things going.”
Tip #3: Tease her to please her.
If you’re about to kiss her, go in for the kiss…slowly. Kiss her legs up toward her thighs… almost painstakingly slow. It’ll drive her crazy!
Remember, the anticipation of something is often better than actually getting it – for men and women. Go too fast and she’ll think you’re a pervert. Go too slow and she’ll think you’re a wussy. A great lover knows when the time’s right, and when she’s ready to get things going!
SEX TIP #4: MAKE HER PLEASURE, YOUR PLEASURE
“So many guys grow up watching porn and think that’s what great sex is.”
Porn is made for men to get off to, and is focused on them – which is the least likely way to get her to orgasm. It’s also a surefire way to become a horrible lover!
“Play her body like an instrument. Conduct her pleasure like a symphony, making her climax in erotic harmony.”
Tip #4: Make her pleasure your priority.
Replace the “What’s in it for me?” mentality with the “I love seeing her face and hearing her voice when I’m making her feel this good” mentality. Think of new ways to bring her pure bliss and make her climax to new heights!
Focus on her by:
Taking off her clothes first
Bringing her to orgasm before intercourse
Asking her what she wants
Exploring positions (and places) she loves
SEX TIP #5: BE PRESENT
“If you’re in your head, you’ll miss the moment, and you won’t enjoy yourself or her.”
Tip #5: Just Let Go and Be.
If you’re worried about what she’ll say tomorrow or if she’s going to laugh at your “size”, you won’t to be doing her or yourself any good. Remember, if you expect her to follow your lead, you need to be confident. So get out of your head and into your body!
Now go off and have some bathroom-sink-breaking, neighbor-waking, back-arching, incredibly remarkable sex!
The only downside is that you’ll probably totally ruin it for the next guy. Oh well!
By Drew Gerald (check out his bio & visit his website to learn more about his epic work for men)
EDITOR’S NOTE: To learn even more about how to be a great lover & have epic sex check out this video: