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Why Sometimes We Women Simply Can’t Feel You Inside Of Us (No Matter The Size Of Your Penis)


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Triambika, founder of The Ecstatic Awareness Institute, is a professional intimacy coach and international sacred sexuality seminar leader. Having spent the last fifteen years diving deep into eastern studies, Triambika has devoted much of her adult life to the study and practice of Tantra yoga and the union of Spirit and sex.

Have you ever once, even for a second wondered if your penis was large enough to please your woman?

Even if you have a large penis and that thought never crossed your mind, perhaps you have wondered if you were using it in a way that would most please her.

Now I’m gonna be honest with you sometimes no matter what your size, we women simply can’t feel you inside of us.

And it’s not because we are so stretched out, so don’t even go there.

Your Penis is There But it’s Only Physical

Sometimes you could be hammering away and we feel next to nothing. Why? Because YOU are not there. Your penis is there but it’s only physical. It lacks the spiritual, energetic aspects that have the power to heal, pleasure and open her into a whole other universe.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume that if you’re taking the time to read this, it matters to you to be a good lover.

Becoming a Conscious Lover

What I want to Share with You is going to Improve your Performance Big Time. But not only will it make you a better lover, it’s going to make you a more conscious lover. Ahh, now there’s something a woman wants to hear. More conscious men in the world please… and more conscious women too… every one of us could stand to be a little more mindful when it comes to sex. After all, it works out best when all of you is fully there.

Guys, if you’ve been around the block with women, you’ve probably heard it all before. She wants you to “show-up” to pay attention, to listen to her needs, to listen to her ramble on about her new shoes, she wants you to be PRESENT!

Ask any woman who has a clue and she’ll tell you how essential it is for a man to be Present, in the moment, with her, right NOW.

Fortunately men already come equipped with an amazing ability to focus solely and entirely on one thing. Now, let’s make that one thing, the ‘right’ thing.


Bring your Attention Into Infusing your Cock with Loving Awareness

The Act of Occupying your Cock is really quite Simple, however not many men are very Aware of this well kept Secret. It’s about bringing all of your pointed attention into infusing your cock with a luminous glow of loving awareness.

That’s right, bring all of your  attention to your member, fill it with light and focus on the power contained there in your magic wand.

Think Harry Potter only your using your cock instead of a stick of wood. This is best done during intercourse but can also be incorporated before you’re even erect.

It’s unfortunate however understandable that some men would rather think about the ball game or dead puppies while they’re having sex in order to keep themselves from coming too soon. While this may be effective for withholding an ejaculation, it’s a complete rip off to your partner who is opening up her body to you.

Occupying your cock is more about the intention you put into your wand while you’re making love.

You may only last a short time or you’ll last for hours but if she’s feeling you fuck her open to the heavens, you’ll be happy you did this.

Here’s a Few Helpful Hints


#1 Imagine using your magic wand to paint her pussy on the outside with delicious strokes of pleasure.

#2 Imagine, slowly…I said slowly, entering her Yoni while you envision your penis lighting up, like a rod of light.

#3 Inside your wand you have the power to heal your woman, you have the power to awaken her pleasure beyond belief.
The light of your cock extends far beyond and far wider than the physical could ever do.

#4 As you penetrate her visualize your penis lighting her up from the inside.

#5 Move in and out, a little quicker if you want,  but remember to slow down to really SEE your cock-light reaching way past her g-spot, into all the dark hidden places where she feels most vulnerable. Your cock-light reaches all the way up to her source of power and even beyond that, into her heart!

Can you just imagine fucking her heart so deeply that you could see your cock light coming out through her throat? Kind of erotic if you ask me.

#6 But why stop there? Now slow down here, both of you remind each other to breeeeeeeaaaaathe deeeeeeeeply. And imagine that next inhalation taking your cock-light right up through the crown of her head straight to the Source of all creation.

Republished with permission, courtesy of  Triambika

Artist Featured Image: Artemisia Gentileschi


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Share Your Thoughts

  • Max Bullion

    If you can’t feel a penis, then maybe YOU are the one not ‘present’. I can’t speak for anyone but myself. If I wasn’t ‘present’ emotionally or spiritually, then I wouldn’t be able to penetrate you in the first place. Yes, sex is spiritual, but we are not just spiritual beings. We have bodies as well and sometimes raw, carnal sex is just as pleasurable as deep, passionate love-making.

  • Tyrone Svedin

    Some people missed the whole point of the article. First of all thank you for sharing. Being a man myself and having been with women, it goes both ways people. Sure there are women who need to change in bed but this was specifically geared towards men. This was eye opening to me. I want to be better in bed and if I become a conscious lover then I/we can have more fun in bed.

  • Shinda Buycks

    Im so shocked at the comments. For so many men to know this, how come in relationships it isnt so. Ive been with my man four years and he still doesnt get that if i dont feel him emotionally thr sex is straight garbage. It was a nice article so damn anal some of you people.

  • Raven

    ….Wow. This is truly and utterly disgusting. Casting such large amount of negative energy int a sacred act. Horrifically, heinously invasive. This author is willing to “fuck” people. Try infiltrating a group of aware people who know what sex is as well as other magicks, in real life and not hiding on the Internet. You will be destroyed. Our beauty and Light will not be corrupted by people who want to “fuck”.

  • Emma Pace

    all this is so obvious and so patronising- we’ve moved on from this- great advice for teens- but as adults even if we not conscious about all this stuff- it happens naturally anyway- i have faith in this rather than your crass crap words. its pathetic tbh.

    • corruptintenz

      Pretty one-sided, and monolithic as well.

  • Emma Pace


  • Hahaha…now thats interesting

    • Emma Pace

      how i nteresting? i find it boring

  • jumbo job

    haha this is idiotic

  • El Payaso

    “And it’s not because we are so stretched out, so don’t even go there.”

    “Sometimes you could be hammering away and we feel next to nothing. Why? Because YOU are not there.”

    Male blaming at its finest. If we have a problem, it’s YOUR fault and don’t even dare say it’s ours. Don’t even dare make us take responsibility for half of the problem if not all of it.

    If you can’t feel anything inside you, it probably is because you’re loose. Throwing a hot dog into a super bowl stadium…

    • Cal Sutherland

      “..hot dog into a super bowl stadium…”

      Female blaming at its crudest. Firstly, manly men do not shame women and rather than divert or flee from (impersonal) criticism are proud to assume responsibility for their actions, relationships and communities. Secondly, you likened your organ to a cheap, mass-produced, nutritionally-compromising morsel and Hers to a grand arena. That speaks volumes.

      Anyone with the will can sense that this world operates on more than mere mechanics.

      • El Payaso

        Yes but womanly women can shame men as they please. Thanks for the chick logic.

        • Cal Sutherland

          Can is not do. Shame is nobody’s doing but the shameful. Happy to help.

          Women have minds too, believe it or not.

          • El Payaso

            In this case, can is do because I was referencing this female writer’s male shaming post. Try to keep up.

          • Cal Sutherland

            As a male reader, I find the above post encouraging and informative, not at all shaming. I am ashamed of some pseudo-erotic encounters in my past but I wouldn’t think of blaming the author here.


  • wow, fantastic article

  • Samyo

    Weeitsnooks … Seriously that’s what you got out of this article. You sound like a whiney little peon and you need to wake the f**k up … you have no idea what “presence” is. To be there in the moment with your partner energetically, mentally, emotionally .. and it cuts both ways, if the woman isn’t there you may as well be poking a pillow. And it is not just sex, it is in life, with your kids, all of the important shit. Most of you would be energetic needle dicks who would wilt if confronted by anyone who was real .. I am not surprised if other comment of yours where not approved, grow up boy! If you even remotely understood the concepts discussed you would’t make the comments you did.

  • WeeItsNookies

    Haha of course my comment calling out people’s constant need to shift all blame and emphasis on men wasn’t approved. Can’t take liberals and women seriously at all. If you can’t feel anything inside of you, maybe it’s because your pussy is similar to a blackhole.

  • WeeItsNookies

    Oh look, yet another article that puts the blame onto males. If you can’t feel a penis inside of you, you have a huge gaping blackhole between your legs and should probably do kegels.

    • Elizabeth

      You are uneducated about vaginas. There aren’t any nerve endings past the entrance. You can feel pain at the entrance if you nip it but no pleasure and they’re numb further up. Women can’t feel them. My vagina is tight as can be. I’ve had sex twice and couldn’t feel a thing.

  • Derek

    I will share this great article with the men in my circle for sure. Especially the young ones that think porn is teaching them how to love a women.

  • Anthony Weldi Jr Twon

    It goes both ways, women aren’t the only one’s that feel their partner isn’t there…

  • Aaron J. March

    Awesome article, so true, works every time. There is no need to think about the ball game, just breathe and get over the addiction to cumming, (it is separate to an orgasm), it will change your life, it will allow you to fk all night and leave her feeling totally full and thoughtless, blissed out beyond anything she has ever felt. Great article 🙂

    • Raven

      ….No it won’t. If you are wiling to “fuck” somebody then you are obviously not capable of doing anything with real energy. The fuck is wrong with you?


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