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Eye Gazing Does Something Crazy To Your Love Life. Read This!

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“They say that the eyes are the window to the soul.“

With just a simple glance we can convey everything from interest to arousal, joy, annoyance, and anger.

Through eye contact we can connect with others on a much deeper level.

“Eye contact is an extremely powerful & universal form of nonverbal communication”

The Power Of Conscious Eye Contact

From the time we are infants, we need eye contact for healthy neurological growth.

As we grow older, we use eye contact to connect with other people, especially when it comes to conveying messages of attraction and arousal.

In ancient Sufi traditions, as well as Buddhist and Hindu tantric traditions, eye gazing or soul gazing is a sacred practice that is used to deepen trust and intimacy, awaken the heart energy, channel powerful sexual energy, and create a pathway to the divine.

By gazing deeply into another person’s eyes, you transcend the ego and begin to tap into the universal male or female energies in your partner and in yourself.

From here it is possible to reach a higher state of consciousness an ecstatic state of spiritual union.

In fact, many mystics, including the 13th century poet Rumi, believed that soul gazing was a means of obtaining true enlightenment.

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3 Magical Powers of Eye Gazing


If you really want to open yourself up to another person, see deep into their soul, and heighten sexual connection and intimacy, eye contact is the way to go.

#1 It Increases Attraction

When you look someone directly in the eyes, their body produces a natural chemical called phenylethylamine, which is also known as the ‘love drug’ for its ability to accelerate attraction.

Eye gazing also shows potential mates that you are interested in them.

Researchers have found that we are more likely to find people sexually attractive when they look directly at us and smile.

This may may go back to a primal survival instinct that compels us to exert more energy on potential mates who show signs of interest in us too.

#2 It Gets The Sexual Juices Flowing

Just as eye gazing can be a powerful indicator of attraction, it can also turn you on.

When you lock eyes with a potential mate and you see signs of sexual invitation like a slightly parted lips, it triggers physiological reactions in the body that get the mojo going.

Eye gazing also deepens trust between you and your partner and trust allows you to let go and thus heightens your sexual energy.

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#3 It Creates A Deeper Sense of Intimacy and Love


When we look into another person’s eyes and hold their gaze, something truly magical begins to happen.

Barriers break down, your heart energy begins to flow more freely, and there is deep sense of connection that can be even more intimate than physical contact.

Where formerly we were two separate beings, we join together through the practice and become something that neither of us could quite be on our own.” – Will Johnson

Eye gazing can truly open the channels to a deeper understanding and appreciation of your partner, and this divine connection is the key to a long lasting loving relationship.

Even studies found that 4 minutes of uninterrupted eye-gazing increases intimacy.

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How To Practice The Art Of Eye Gazingeye-gazing-frederick-leighton-the-painters

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#1 Get Comfortable

Find a comfortable space where you and your partner can sit or lie facing one another.

#2 Find Your Center 

Close your eyes and try to find your center. Focus on your breathing and let go of any inhibitions or negative thoughts.

#3 Gaze Softly 

When you are ready, open your eyes and gaze softly into your partner’s eyes, don’t focus too much.

Try focusing on their left eye, as this is known as the ‘receptive eye’ and the most direct route to the soul.

#4 No Intentions

Relax your eyes, breathe softly, open your heart, and let whatever arises unfold naturally.

It might feel awkward in the beginning. But I assure you: the more you practice the better it will get.

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8 years ago

I think eye gazing is important. My life partner and I have been together since 1961 and polyamorous since 1967. We have used eye gazing to ground us, help us connect, and stay in touch with our fierce love in both good times and bad. One thing we learned decades ago in the context of some neo-tantra work we did was “right eye gazing”. Right eye gazing is choosing an eye, right or left, I think, and gazing into it. We were told it is easier than trying to look into both eyes at once. I’m not sure if both partners need to gaze into the same eye, that is, both choose right or left. And I’m not sure I have any objective proof that right eye gazing is “better” than trying to look into both of your partners eyes at once. I’m curious about other people’s experience here.


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