Have you ever thought about what trust means to you in a relationship? Does it has to be earned or does it has to be given? Does it mean that your relationship is build on trust towards the other or towards yourself?
Learn About Trust From These Two “Cirque Du Soleil”- Acrobats
This performance is done by Alya Titarenko and Gael Ouisse accompanied by a wonderful speech by Ze Frank. I have written down the words of this speech at the end of the article. It is easier to let the words sink down into your heart by reading them slowly and over and over again. I would also love to hear what trust means to you in the comments below. Enjoy!
“Alya & Gael have to trust each other. As Acrobats in Cirque Du Soleil they sometimes literally put their life into someone else hands.
Trust is a confusing thing.
Seems so simple
But when you are trying to pin it down it can be elusive.
I think of the way that my body sits on the surface that’s new to me – unknown –
and how my muscles remain tight anticipating anything
and I am constantly aware of that surface.
Over time with familiarity I can relax and start to lean back.
For many of us this initial tension exists so much of the time;
we expand so much energy watching, calculating, trying to predict, reading signals in people, ready for anything to change suddenly, preparing to be disappointed.
So much energy spent.
When you talk about trust is something you build as if its a structure or a thing but in that building there seems to be something about letting go
and what it efforts us is a luxury that allows us to stop thinking,
to stop worrying that someone won’t catch us if we fall,
to stop constantly scanning for inconsistencies,
stop wondering how other people act when they are not in our presence,
it allows us to relax a part of our minds and focus on what is in front of us
and that s why its such a tragedy when its broken.
A betrayal can make you think of all the other betrayals that are waiting for you;
things that you haven’t thought of, people you rely on.
And you can feel yourself tightening up and in the worst cases you might resolve to trust no one.
But that doesn’t really work.
Trust is your relationship to the unknown that you can’t control and you can’t control anything.
And its not all or none,
its a slow and steady practice of learning of the capacity of …
and its worth it to keep trying and its not easy.
Alya says that trust is like a fork, not one way but many ways – physical, emotional, maybe something else.
I almost imagine trust as these invisible hands that we stretch out into the world looking for someone to hold on to as we walk into the unknown future.
Alya and Gael began practicing together as friends but now they are a couple, it took time.
So who do you trust and how can you grow it?”
Much love, Adina