The Secret To Making Sex Last Longer

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Jonti Searll

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Jonti has worked for over 12 years in the field of Tantra, expanding sexual experience and consciousness. Jonti offers workshops, talks, private and group lessons in the field of sexuality & sensuality. He assists singles, couples and groups in healing, creating a deeper connection, intimacy, pleasure and the magic between sex and spirituality.

“..there is a secret to making sex last longer that only few people know of. ”

This secret lies in a phase during sex that is often neglected by many. It’s the phase right after sex.

Some call this powerful time “The After-Love”. 

The Power Of The Time After Sex 

The After-Love is almost a time of meditation – we’re open, relaxed and peaceful. Energy flows, and inspiration follows.

It’s a time of being.

We’re fully present, and the consciousness of life surrounds us with ease.

It’s a time where we feel a different truth to our bodies. There’s a sense of well-being and calmness, a softness.

It can be a time of quiet where no words are needed, or a time of sharing from the heart.

It’s a time when we return to ourselves and to the world. It is indeed a magical time with many gifts.

Sadly, it’s often a time so short that we don’t allow ourselves the fullness of receiving all that it has to offer.

So let us take a look into different ways to extend this phase and thus sex.

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Make the Most of the After-Love Phase

Here are 3 things we can do to spend more time in this beautiful place:

#1 Edging

This is one of the most powerful lessons we can share about pleasure:

Take orgasm out of your sexual experience.

Make it less of a focus and instead, swim towards your edge. Build the fire of pleasure. Ride the waves of sensation, of feeling, of emotion for as long as you like or as long as you can.

Get close to the peak, but not so close that you cannot step back.

Then simply be. Take shelter in the After-Love for as long as you can.

It can stay with you for days.

#2 Stay Connected

Extend your After-Love by consciously connecting with your partner.

Remain present after pleasure, whether you orgasm or not.

“Breathe together, and look into each other’s eyes.”

The deeper you breathe, the more everything will slow down and the more present you’ll be. The breaths will also help keep you in your body and out of your head.

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#3 Listen To Your Body

Allow your body to follow in the direction of the energy. After some sexual experiences, we may feel energised, fiery even. Let that flow through you in the form of dance and sound.

“Let it come from within.”

If you’re feeling slow and soft, let your body express that. The movements and sounds you make will keep the energy alive in your body.

The After-Love truly is a wonderful gift. If we chose to open it it may offer to us many expanding and empowering experiences.

It may offer us deeper insights, unexpected inspiration.

It may offer us more self-love, peace of mind and physical energy.

Enjoy!

By Jonti | Feature Artist: Leonid Afremov

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