The Art Of Self Pleasure {4 Unique Ways To Pleasure Yourself}

Self pleasure instills confidence. If you’re feeling low or stress. Even self conscious. Ive found that when I do not pay attention to my body I close up. I am more tense and my sense of trust with my partner vanishes. When I pay attention to my body, exploring and practicing self love, learning every inch of it I fully open up. I open to myself and my partner. There is a sense of trust that rebuilds over the time I spend with myself. It makes me more confident in bed with my partner and confident with myself alone. I hate that for years we have been taught that self pleasure is bad for you or shameful. Honestly its great for you. Its the healthiest thing you could ever do for yourself. I recommend everyone take a few minutes out of their day to do some self loving and pleasure. In the end it will keep you happy and positive.

some other options:

– using a camera or webcam rather than a mirror, so you can comfortably focus or zoom in on specific areas, and study your own body in more detail, or in the viewpoints that you are interested in. this way it’s also easier to play around with odd positions and poses or postures.

– using objects, much like in tantra, for touching yourself. for example using specific types of fabric or textures to apply to various parts of your body. for example a feather, icecubes or even various types of clothing that your body says Yes to.

– using food, in various ways. such as applying it on your skin, which can also have very beneficial effects (such as avocado), or using it as ‘edible objects’ and finding new creative ways to play with these to further enhance your own experience in basically becoming one with these gifts from nature.

– using your own breath, also much like in tantra, to explore your own (sexual) energy. see how your body, your emotions and your thoughts are affected by playing around with your breathing. see if you can arouse yourself just by feeling which areas of your body are activated by your body’s natural motion simply by breathing. using more conscious breathing enhances everything in life greatly. for example, if you’re not familiar with it, try focussing on your breath while massaging yourself or engaging in erotic or sexual activities, whether alone or with someone else.

– using scents and odors. this can be for example incense, essential oils. or even your own body’s scent. find out what is your favorite scent or even your favorite own body odor.

– using meditation or trance. whether using music, scents or not, find a way to relax completely, and use your imagination and breathing to take you into a semi or awakened dream state, much like the state you’re in after sleep, the state of dreams and drifting thoughts. then connect this blissful relaxed state with the presence in your body and see if you can create or follow a flow in your body that is soothing and healing. ultimately a sexual or sensual healing from deep within.

– when using background music or ambient, using this to go into a trance, following the motions that come up in your body, and letting your body go completely, using the rhythm or sounds as a foundation for your physical sensations.

– or perhaps using less sensitive ways, such as using your nails, clamps or sharper objects to over stimulate or numb specific areas for a very short time. stretching body parts (like in kamasutra/yoga) or applying other types of pressure to certain body parts are also options. these ways can create an even more intense sensation and experience due to the increased blood flow and energy running through the body. it perhaps goes without saying to use caution and applying only the amount of pressure or “sweet pain” that is comfortable for you, being very aware of your own boundaries at all times.

– lastly finding ways to tease yourself. if you’re craving for a pie, and bought (or baked) it, just sit in front of it, and absorb all the scents and flavors without touching it. similarly for example in massaging yourself, avoid all sensitive areas, and see if you can arouse your most sensitive areas without touching them. for example by nearly touching sensitive areas, using your imagination, or even using the energy from your hands holding them right over a sensitive spot without touching.

– and there’s always more …

thank you for sharing, Lisa & friends 🙂