Eyal Matsliah is an author, speaker, and coach in the areas of conscious business, sacred sexuality, and creative expression.Eyal is unique in his approach that integrates sexual, professional and spiritual empowerment.His clients learn to cultivate their sexual energy and channel it into their creativity, business, and wellbeing. Eyal’s book, ‘Orgasm Unleashed – Your guide to pleasure, healing and power’, teaches a woman how to transform her sexual experience by herself, and later share that with her partner. He lives in the beautiful Melbourne, Australia.
For most women an orgasm lasts a few seconds. This doesn’t have to be the case.
One of the greatest insights that I have had while working with women, is that many have an internal timer that tells them, “This orgasm has finished. I have come and now my orgasm is over.”
For most women an orgasm lasts a few seconds.
Afterwards the orgasm timer kicks in and thoughts such as these take over:
“I’ve orgasmed and now I need to pleasure him.”
“I have had an orgasm, therefore sex is finished.”
“He’s probably waiting for me to finish.”
Attitudes That Limit Your Orgasmic Potential
Your orgasm potential is limited by a range of beliefs and attitudes such as:
#1 Orgasm Is A Momentary Experience
Most women believe that an orgasm is a momentary experience – you rise, you peak, you fall. They don’t know that an orgasm can be a continuous state, lasting minutes and (sometimes) hours.
#2 Orgasm Is The Goal
An orgasm is seen as the goal of sex, so once it’s achieved, it signals the end of the sexual interaction.
#3 After Orgasming I Have To Give Back
Some women are not comfortable remaining in a receptive state after having an orgasm and therefore feel obliged to ‘give back’.
#4 Long Orgasms Are Not Okay
Sometimes an orgasm becomes stronger the longer it lasts and some women have a subconscious fear that it’s ‘too much’ or they ‘can’t handle it’, so they make themselves snap out of it.
By changing your attitude towards your orgasm you can make the transition into expanded orgasmic states. I invite you to apply the following attitudes & notice how they can shift your orgasmic experience.
#1 Orgasm Is A State Of Being
An orgasm is a state of being, not just a momentary occurrence or peak.
#2 Orgasm Can Be Experienced All Over Your Body
An orgasm can be experienced as whole-body pleasure, not just localized to the genitals.
#3 Every Pleasure Is An Orgasmic Experience
Every small wave of pleasure is an orgasmic experience, like a mini-orgasm.
Once you embody an orgasmic attitude, you can easily deepen your orgasms with a few simple techniques.These will enable you to expand and deepen the experience into an orgasmic state that engulfs your whole body with pleasure.
This is so important. The more relaxed you are, the easier it is to become (and stay) aroused.
You can experiment with fast mouth breathing, full belly breathing and full retention. When you are holding a full breath in, send it down to your genitals.