F*ck Perfection! Embrace Who You Are ♡
About Me
Grace Burns is an aspiring young travel journalist and yoga teacher who grew up in Australia, spending holidays sailing through South Pacific islands with her family and heading off to explore the world whenever she earned enough money for a flight. She is passionate about self-love and holistic lifestyle.Fuck perfection! Fuck whatever society’s image of “beauty” is and embrace what you’ve got.
Gone are the days of my box gap, flat tummy and toned tush.
Gone are the nights when I would binge eat anything I could get my hands on, only to end up hunched over the toilet trying to make myself vomit up the entire pizza I consumed (while running the shower to help drown out the sound of my gagging and wash away my tears of self hate).
I had one of those bodies that girls starved themselves for – and I couldn’t even see it.
Then when I went overseas, something clicked.
I started to notice that people I met outside of Australia didn’t think it was cool that my collar bones protruded from my chest. They did, however, think it was cool that I was traveling the world by myself at 18 years old.
It’s All About Perspective
While traveling I learned that beauty ideals differ from country to country. For example:
In Tonga people love big women; the more of the woman the better.
In Tahiti, body hair and natural, puffy nipples are desired.
In Ethiopia it is admired if the body of a woman is marked with artistic scares.
In France, underarm hair is considered sexy. (well, not just in France).
In Northern Thailand, long necks are admired.
So instead of counting calories, I’ve started to count experiences, the places I’ve visited and the inspiring people I’ve met.
I’ve developed a womanly figure and have fallen in love with my curvy hips (that will one day bear my children), my voluptuous bosoms (that hold those in need), my belly (that wobbles when I laugh from deep within).
I have a newfound adoration for my soft, inner thighs that hug one another when I walk and cushion my lover’s hips.
Fuck perfection. Fuck whatever society’s image of “beauty” is and embrace what you’ve got.
Be grateful for your health, not your bikini bridge.
Find people who love you for all your wiggly, out-of-proportion, bits.
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Wear your heart on your sleeve and your differences with pride.
Indulge in the delicious, nutritious foods you crave.
Taste and share and drink and laugh.
Exercise to make your soul feel good, to release endorphins, and to increase your libido (not to take a half-naked picture on Instagram).
Run outside, hike a mountain, practice yoga in a candlelit room, swim in the ocean, stand naked in front of a mirror and feel sexy, free and authentic.
Change your screen saver to a picture that makes you happy to be you – not a picture of someone you want to be.
Focus on your passions, and stop spending all your time and energy on your image.
Start working on what’s within, as that will radiate out.
Surround yourself with people who lift you up, who inspire you as a person, and make your heart feel full.
Find lovers that want to kiss every part of your body: stretch marks, puffy nipples and all.
By Grace Burns | Featured artist: Lilli Hill | Originally posted on GlobalHobo
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The imperfections are the things that make the perfect balance…..
“Fuck perfection! Fuck whatever society’s image of “beauty” is and embrace what you’ve got.”
Do you morons really think there are people out there who don’t know what looks good to them until “society” tells them what it is?
I can remember being attracted to thin healthy women when I was 4.
“In Tonga people love big women; the more of the woman the better.”
In Tonga,they never invented the wheel and people who are skinny are usually that way because they’re starving to death.
“In Tahiti, body hair and natural, puffy nipples are desired.”
I don’t know what you mean by “puffy” but if it’s what I think it means,then puffy nipples are desired everywhere,idiot. Body hair on a woman is disgusting because it can spread disease.
“In Ethiopia it is admired if the body of a woman is marked with artistic scares.”
Yeah,well they eat flies and grubworms for dinner. I don’t see women voluntarily adopting that practice if they don’t have to do so for the purposes of survival.
“I’ve developed a womanly figure and have fallen in love with my curvy hips (that will one day bear my children), my voluptuous bosoms (that hold those in need), my belly (that wobbles when I laugh from deep within).”
If you’re fat,you’re living an unhealthy lifestyle. You’re going to teach your unhealthy lifestyle to your children,assuming you ever have any,which is unlikely, and your children will be born with health issues because you are screwed up in the head.
You’re also extremely stupid. The fact that there are different cultures with different ideas of beauty does not equal “there is no such thing as beauty”. Some cultures believe it is impossible for a man to rape his wife. I guess we should throw out rape laws because there can’t be rape if different cultures think it means different things,right? Embrace all forms of sexuality. Throw away those backwards notions that just because a woman said no and screamed for help and tried to run away,it isn’t consensual sex. That’s about the same as what you’re doing in this article. Trying to force something on someone that they don’t want and aren’t obligated to accept.
“Fuck perfection. Fuck whatever society’s image of “beauty” is and embrace what you’ve got.”
And fuck having kids. Fuck being healthy. Fuck being sexually attractive to anyone except yourself.
“Embracing what you’ve got” is a euphemism for being lazy and narcissistic, and pretty much nobody anywhere in the world finds that attractive.
Women,I’ve got news for you. If you don’t care for your body,no one else will either. You’re not going to bluff your way into giving a man a hard-on.
If you want to be fat and hairy and smell bad and still be considered sexually attractive, then go to a country where people are starving to death and the men outnumber the women 5-1 and you will be. Because the guys there won’t have any better options. When they finally get the internet in that backwards craphole, they will drop you like a hot rock.
It’s easy to say f*ck perfection when you are conventionally pretty and skinny. It’s easy to say “be natural” once you’ve had plastic surgery and rejuvenating procedures. It’s easy to say “accept yourself” when you’ve been blessed with excellent genes. Usually the people preaching body positivity are already looking pretty fly and that makes me lose hope.
You might want to watch “Gapped Toothed Women” by Les Blank. It is a subtle but powerful film on body acceptance and the folklore of standards of beauty.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0095199/fullcredits